ADHD

[Murray]

This thread has been created for anyone who wishes to voice their opinions about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder - ADHD.

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[robg]

Its not nice. My son suffers with it, and rather than be naughty he lacks a concentration mode. Not saying he's an angel, far from it. When he's at home he demands all the attention, etc etc, classic signs. He also has ADD which is completely different, and wouldn't even think about crossing a road without looking. Hence he can't be trusted to go out to play alone, without his elder brother, meaning that not only does he suffer through a lack of independance, but my eldest also suffers to, both in material ways and his independance. My wife and i haven't been out alone together for 6 years because of his illness and yes it is an illness. Thankfully he does behave at school, although because of his lack of concentration he is falling behind. And there is nothing we can do except hive him our love, encouragement and his ritalin.
And no we haven't put in for disability like some do, nor do we wish to have a carers allowance. There are far worse cases than his around, and until your child suffers from it, its an illness that goes widely unnoticed. Also,as in our case, its not the upbringing. My eldest is in top sets for all his subjects, behaves well, and is trusted and excels in everything he does. We have never treated them any different when they were younger, so it cant be the way he was bought up. Its just one of those things, and i've had experts tell me that, so i don't need any uneducated self opinionated idiots telling me otherwise.
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[Biggles]

You have my sympathy Rob (not that you were asking for it, but you have it anyway).

We don't have the same problems as you, but our youngest child was born with a cleft lip & pallette.

Thanks to the care and attention of the NHS, he is now fine, absolutely fine, he'll have another op or two when he's stopped growing, but thats just cosmetic.

When he was younger (he's 12 now) he was a terror, especially for his mother, we were being told he'd need a special statement for education etc etc.

He is in mainline school, and just the right side of average, a situation we'd have given our right arm for a few years back.

The problem in his case was he just couldn't communicate, he couldn't make himself understood, and he'd get very frustrated and behave badly as a result, so like yourself a lot of our time was spent dealing with him, at the expense of his two elder sisters.

Its all turned around now, he's terrific, a normal 12 year old git lol, spends far to much of his time playing football, he can communicate too well now, and has opinions on everything, but especially what Arsene Wenger should do etc, apart from parts of his face being slightly miss-shapen (for which I'm delighted to say he seems to recieve no "stick" from others his own age), you'd never know there were ever any problems.

I have no answers for you Rob, I can only wish you well, and hope that the people in the original story are being dealt with correctly.

Its hard to get opinions from one article as to whether the lad needs help or his parents need to learn how to be parents,